|We all want encouragement and praise! Here are just a few simple statements that will make a difference!You’ve got it made.
You’re on the right track now!
You are very good at that.
·I‘m happy to see you working like that.
You’re doing a good job.
That’s the best you’ve ever done.
I knew you could do it.
·Now you’ve figured it out.
·Now you have it!
·You make it look easy.
·That’s the right way to do it.
·You’re getting better every day.
·That’s the way to do it.
·You’ve just about mastered that!
·You did that very well.
·You’re really improving.
·Keep it up!
·You’ve got that down pat!
·I’m very proud of you.
·I think you’ve got it now.
·You figured that out fast.
·That’s really nice.
·Way to go.
·Now you have the hang of it!
·You’ve done a great job.
·Congratulations, you got it right
|·That’s GOOD! ·GOOD WORK! I’m proud of the way you worked today.
You’re really working hard today.
·You’ve just about got it.
·You are doing that much better today.
·You’re learning fast.
·Good for you!
·Couldn’t have done it better myself.
·You did it that time!
·That’s the way!
·You haven’t missed a thing.
·Keep up the good work.
·Nothing can stop you now!
·That’s better than ever.
·I appreciate your hard work.
·Now that’s what I call a fine job!
·You must have been practicing!
·You’re doing beautifully.
·You’re doing fine.
·You are really learning a lot.
·You outdid yourself today!
·Well, look at you go!
There are so many more but hopefully these will help everyone at every age gain CONFIDENCE!
1. Embrace Time Abundance: give more time to what you need to get done.
2. Create the Opening: say no to say yes.
3. Relish the Space Between things: schedule a “DO NOTHING,” time.
4. Disengage from Clock Combat: be clock/watch/time free for a day.
5. Invite flow into your life: engage in activities that make you forget time.
6. Eat Mindfully: Nutrition and slow bites.
7. Use your tools: let the call go to voicemail, helps you regain your center.
8. Switch your cell phone: turn it off.
9. When a window closes, a door opens: Close things that distract you…only focus on one project at a time to be more effective and successful.
10. Captain your ship: decide to visit other areas in your life, new things bring simple pleasure.
11. Redefine the value of leisure: get rest will rejuvenate your efforts.
12. Rekindle childhood dreams: pursue something you’ve always wanted to do, see or experience.
13. Adhere to the rule of FULL: instead of ½ day take a full day to enjoy.
14. Take an adult size time out: Be gadget free and reconnect to people.
15. Change your routine: will raise your awareness and creates a new sense of place.
16. Thirty Minutes outdoors: Vit D even through the clouds, stress reliever.
17. Surround yourself with beauty: aromatherapy, soothing music, and candles, stimulate your senses.
18. Get Moving: Stairs not elevators, walk not ride, park further out, keep up your cardio and improve your circulation.
19. Take small steps: helps reduce procrastinations, reduces being overwhelmed, and increases accomplishments and increases confidence.
20. Don’t sweat the small stuff: Focus on what you can do and now what you can, focus on what you have and now what you don’t have etc…
21. Savor your day: You choose how to spend your day and time doing what you want to do, starting with your attitude.
Is your family becoming almost like strangers, meeting each other coming and going from one activity to another? Slow down, take control, and schedule in family time to foster a well-balanced and all-around happier family. (Some of these ideas have already been posted but some have not.)
·Start with a family meeting. Even young children can participate in a discussion that can be as general as asking what kids and adults would like to see to have a happier family. Ask about their activities, and their commitment to them. Do they love something or are they doing it because either you or their friends expect them to? Is it fun or stressful? Take this time to ask about whether they have other pursuits they’d like to consider, desire more unstructured time, or whether they feel their life is just right as it is. Avoid leading kids into any answers and don’t make them feel something is “wrong” with their family life now. Tell them you just want to check and make sure of everyone’s contentment with things and whether they feel the family as a whole is effectively balancing school, family time, work and community.
·Pick a family night. Designate one night a week as family time. It can be a movie night, game night, pizza or take-out night, entertainment night (such as karaoke or dance performances), or even a time to exercise together (ride bikes, go for a walk, or go to the park). The point is to be together in a quality fashion. Having a spouse plop in front of the television, a teen playing video or computer games, or young kids relegated to a back room does not bond family togetherness. Do things together, and discuss the coming week’s activities to build enthusiasm and momentum for family time together.
·Encourage kid friendships. Sure, your food bill may soar, but encourage children to bring their friends over, stay for dinner, and participate in family time. Time with friends in unstructured play helps to build relationships, learn things like give and take and sharing, and also how different families do things differently. For parents, having your kids’ friends come to your house means that not only do you know who your child is hanging out with, what he’s doing and where he is at, but it helps to foster a greater level of understanding as to what makes your child tick. Just observing kids interact and play helps parents to better understand their child’s interests and passions, which in turn can be utilized in future family time gatherings.
·Eat together. You’ve heard this before, but child experts really emphasize that this simple act improves family time with members through conversation and togetherness. Research clearly shows that eating meals as a family is one of the most important things you can do to stay connected, especially with older children and teens. Eating meals together should be seen as a positive experience, important, and a priority. It’s a chance to casually ask about a child’s day, interests, concerns, needs, and a great way to initiate good ol’ talk time.
·Share responsibilities. Children really should be active contributors to the household. Get kids involved with taking out the trash, setting the table, cooking meals, cleaning up after themselves, or raking leaves. It’s even better if these chores can be done in conjunction with family time so all members contribute in some way. Kids won’t always do the same quality job as adults, but they need to start somewhere, and will improve with positive encouragement and reinforcement.
·Set reasonable expectations for activity levels. Some kids want to participation in everything, and are perfectly happy to have structured activities each night of the week. With other kids, parents have to push and prod to get them to willingly participate in even a single activity. Balance is the key for happiness and overall family time quality. Consider a child’s age and interests and be sure to weigh those against what your own dreams of what you hope your kids will thrive in. Accept that your kid’s may not share your passions or interests, and then find out what does make them excel.
·Make sure it’s possible. Many activities nowadays require an increasing amount of time and financial resources. Consider transportation, practice conflicts that will require juggling to be on time and get picked up on time, and missed games or competitions due to being only one place at a time. Be sure your family finances can afford activities such as all-star cheer, competitive dance, or select sports, which can require traveling, additional uniforms, and equipment purchases.
It takes commitment by kids and parents alike to successfully balance school, family time, work demands, and community participation. Families should meet and discuss commitment levels and establish expectations in advance before allowing kids to sign up for ambitious programs or year-long activities. Family time success is dependent on an “all for one and one for all” commitment that is free from whining. Here are things to consider:
·Require a commitment of your kids. While you should be willing to let kids change from interest to interest–after all, that’s how they really learn what they love and what they don’t–do not let them be quitters. Many teams accept a certain number of kids or build programs based on participation, and kids should be taught that they need to stay committed for the season. After that, they don’t have to return. But kids should commit to activities and agree in advance not to whine about practice, getting up early, or yet another game. That type of behavior creates negative family time issues. If you’re in doubt that your child will like a year-long all-star cheerleading program, for example, then only sign her up for recreational cheer. If she exhibits enthusiasm and commitment to the sport, then next year you can always consider increasing participation levels. And just because a child has natural talent in an area (i.e. baseball), it doesn’t mean he will “love” the sport and want to play on a select (hand-picked) group, even if chosen. Be honest, be fair, and allow your kids to say no before you agree to yet more practices.
·Be sure your spouse is committed as well. Activities and programs require commitment and support of the spouse as well, particularly if a family has multiple kids and mom and dad may be scurrying in different directions.
·Be your child’s best fan. Coaches and program directors increasingly express dismay as to how overscheduled parents nowadays drop their kids off to practice, games and performances and pick them up at the end without staying to watch their child in action. While remaining at events isn’t always possible, parents should make it a priority in their lives as well and positively support kids. That being said, remember that there is a difference between positive support and encouragement and being the backstage mom or screaming dad that everyone hates to have in their program.
·Have fun with your kids for the best family time of all. Enjoy your kids, their activities, their talent (or lack of in certain areas) and embrace being a family. The best family time memories are often those just spent together as a team, sharing jokes, eating together, and having fun.
We all want the best for our family! So what can we do? Make Family Time A Priority!
If your nightly refrain is how tired you and the kids are, perhaps your family is struggling with how to balance work, school, and activities. Here are some quick tips for juggling the various schedules and spend some quality time together:
·Create a family night. The solution is simple and can create memories to last a lifetime. Whether it’s movie night, take-out night (think pizza or Chinese, for example), game night, or a family walk night, the key is that a night each week is designated for together time. Relax…and talk with each other! You might be surprised the things you learn from your kids on your special night.
·Enjoy and interact with your child’s friends. Yes, really! Letting kids “hang out” at your place gives you valuable insight into what interests and motivates your own child as well as understanding the “crowd” he or she is associating with. For younger kids, an hour or two with a friend can teach sharing, responsibility, taking turns, and other traits through actual learning and experiences. And don’t forget that many child experts indicate that free time for play and social interaction can be better for a child’s development than too many organized or structured activities.
·Let your child choose his/her interests, and not you. Too many well-meaning parents sign their kids up for activities they’re truly not at all interested in or good at, then face conflicts and power struggles as a result. It’s another issue all-together if your child constantly begs to sign up for activities and then wants to quit, but kids at even a young age develop certain interests and dreams that they want to pursue. And, they most likely won’t be the same dreams you had either! Be careful to choose your battles and accommodate activity requests where practical.
·Consider the commitment when making decisions. More and more activities are emphasizing additional practices and time requirements in today’s competitive world. You as the parent have to decide if a particular activity is appropriate for your child. Options for time-pressed families is to sign kids up for a recreation league vs. a select season; for pee wee-cheerleading instead of a year-round squad, for example.
·Determine your child’s commitment as well. If your kid says an activity “might” be fun, avoid committing to a full season or year. Not only could it present a problem for your child if he/she doesn’t like it, but will infringe on the other players/members participating in the activity. Many teams rely on a certain number of players or kids to form a group, and a last-minute pull-out could cause an impact on everyone else. If you’re not sure, consider signing your child up for a mini-camp or week-long or short session instead. If your kid loves it, then you can always seek something more in the future.
·Assign family responsibilities. If everyone in the family is participating in some type of activity, then general household chores may be harder to get accomplished due to lack of time. Have a family meeting and explain that in order to do these enrichment activities/sports/music, everyone will have to pitch in to make sure the clothes still get washes, dishes done, and table cleared. If you set expectations up front, any grumbling will be minimized. Even small kids can help set the table, clear dishes, or take out the trash cans to the curb.
·Watch for signs of being overextended and adjust schedules as needed. If your kid’s grades starting plummeting or you get a note that says your child often falls asleep after mid-morning snack, you may be asking too much of them. Keep in mind a child’s age, personality, and true interest in making decisions.
Encourage the “all for one and one for all” concept. A family who plays together, stays together is the message and encourage your kids to support each other’s activities and endeavors.
·Above all, keep family first! Keeping your priorities straight will ensure a happier, better-adjusted family.
What is FAMILY TIME anyway?
·Webster defines Family as:
Parents and their Children; The members of one Household; A group of person’s related by blood or marriage.
·God defines Family as:
Joshua 24: 15b “As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.”
Matthew 21:15a “My house will be called a house of Prayer.”
Eph 5:22-23 “Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is head of the church, his body, of which is the savior.”
Eph 5: 25 Husbands Love your wife just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her.”
Eph. 6:2 “Honor thy Father and Mother which is the first commandment with a promise.”
There are so many more but these are a few of my favorite! =)
- Make time for each person in the family, at least once a week, to talk with, laugh with, cry with or just relax with.
- Have a date night/day~Have a family night/day~Have a “DO NOTHING” time. It makes such a difference in your relationship~
- Also make time for yourself~once a week give yourself time to refresh and renew! It could be anything from a bubble bath, read a book, get coffee with the girls, or go shopping without the kids. This will help you recharge and feel good about the daily tasks you do.
Being a Family requires a continuous connection in relationships. Taking the good with the bad and the heartaches with the hugs. Being a Household of Faith is being a Family!
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Looking forward to the next party at your house! =)
Twas the night before Christmas and throughout the land,
People were kneeling and all holding hands…
Their world had been shattered with violence and hate,
They gathered each praying that it wasn’t too late.
In Churches and Mosques and prayer line and on the phones,
Synagogues and Temples and small private homes…
The idea started with one little girl, who wished for one prayer, from all of the world.
Every one of God’s Children from each different nation, United for one hour of prayer and dedication.
The girl told her best friend, who then told her teacher, who the following Sunday shared the idea with her preacher.
From there it just snowballed with flyers and speeches, commercials on TV, and everywhere radio reaches!
Someone sent an email that burned up the wire; it raced around the internet like an uncontrollable fire. From computers to cell phones, faxes through cyberspace, the World Wide Web was overwhelmed as it continued to race!
The Date was decided for most seemed to believe that this magical hour, should take place Christmas Eve. For surely if the planet could somehow unite in prayer, God would hear us on this most special of nights…
They gathered in stadiums, town cafeteria and halls, school gyms and chat rooms, each filled wall to wall. All of Europe’s great cathedrals were filled to overflowing, never before in all history there had been such a showing. Spain, Portugal, Singapore, Greece, Kenya, and Paraguay, Rome, Chile, Columbia, the good olds USA!
Exactly at 10pm the service would start. The little girl with a dream would say a prayer from her heart, in a tiny little church hall, where the girl usually prayed. Microphones and speakers were wired, her words would be relayed, to the very ends of this planet and then back again. The whole world could join her praying for Peace to all mean!
The small girl stepped slowly in front of the crowd and all the satellites and cameras made the static so loud. Then a great hush fell over all those gathered there; the world held it’s breath as she started her prayer…
DEAR GOD, UP IN HEAVEN~PLEASE HEAR US TONIGHT. LET YOUR ANGELS FLY DOWN AND SHOW US YOUR LIGHT! PLEASE STOP ALL THE HATRED, HELP US MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE AS TONIGHT WE ALL PRAY WITH ONE SINGLE VOICE…SHOW US THE WAY GOD, TO LIVE IN PEACE AND TO SHARE ALL WE HAVE WITH OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS, EVERYONE, EVERYWHERE…AND GOD, ONE MORE THING, IF YOU HAVE TIME AND COULD YOU SEND US SOME SORT OF SIGN? IT WOULD DO PEOPLE GOOD IF THEY HAVE DOUBTS, THEY CAN BELIEVE. THIS WOULD BE A GOOD LESSON FOR THIS CHRISTMAS EVE!! SO PLEASE TELL THE ANGELS TO BRING PEACE DOWN TO MEN LIKE THEY DID THAT FIRST CHRISTMAS SO LONG AGO……AMEN!!!
When the girl had finished there was not a sound…all over the world only silence was found. Then suddenly a voice in the back cried out, “Look-up, there near the ceiling.” And that was all it took…Every eye in the world…For the cameras still rolled and glanced quickly upwards as they’d been told…High over head everyone could see Innumerable flickering balls of light.
The entire world stood spellbound at this miraculous sight! Then as people watched in awe, each glowing orb changed to a dove…The universally accepted symbol of God’s undying love! A gasp spread quickly through the all, the electronic feedback was the same…reports of the doves from around the world, as each country checked in by name…The beautiful birds were everywhere, radiating warmth and peace! This was the sign the girl asked for, so that doubt would finally cease!
She clapped her hands quite merrily for she was unable to keep still, delighted with this wonderful show of God’s great and loving will! Wonderful exclamations, songs of praise, such a loud and joy-filled noise cause the rooftops all to raise!
That night knew no division; there was no rank or class, just the whole wide world as one, in PEACE~at last!
This may be another pretty story to you, but it is a true reminder that God is God and if you believe, Christmas is still CHRISTmas!!!
May God give you Peace and a sign as he Blesses you this CHRISTmas~May God fill you with Joy, Hope and Dreams in the year to come!!!