·Chores are one of the best ways to build a feeling of competence.
·Chores help children understand what needs to be done to run a household.
·Chores establish helpful habits and good attitudes about work.
·Chores teach real-world skills and valuable lessons about life
·Chores help ease the transition into adulthood.
“Create a list of every job it takes to keep a family going.” That way everyone know what is expected. Have kids pick out the chores they’d like to do the most — or at least the ones they’d hate the least. Of course, you may need to ensure that each member of your household is capable of handling the chores they sign up for.
Create a chores chart with three columns — one for the list of chores, one for deadlines, and one where you can each make a check when the chore is completed. You might find it easiest to have two lists: one for daily household chores and one for weekly household chores. Here are some Guidelines to get you started!
·Provide a wide berth with deadlines. You do this so family members can complete the chore at their leisure. But make sure kids don’t “hold the family hostage” if they don’t get them done, he says. For example, Suzie can’t unload the dishes if John hasn’t loaded the dishwasher yet.
·Be specific with instructions. “‘Clean your room’ is vague and can be interpreted in any number of ways.” Instead, be explicit by saying, ‘Put your clothes in the closet, books on the shelf, dishes in the kitchen, and toys in the toy box.'”
·Ease into chores for children. First, demonstrate step by step. Next, let your child help. And then have your child do the chore as you supervise. Once your child has it mastered, he’s ready to go solo.
·Offer periodic praise. Especially with younger children, don’t wait until a chore is complete to drop some well-placed kudos.
·Go easy with reminders. If you think your system won’t work without reminders, make sure everyone, including parents, lets others know how they would like to be reminded. A suggestion: use the “when/then” technique, such as, “When the pets are fed, then you may have your dessert.”
And if you consistently redo your child’s chores, you may send the signal that it wasn’t done well enough — not a great way to ensure cooperation.
Don’t wait until a chore is completed to show appreciation — or to not praise and encourage at all.
But inconsistency may be what trips up parents the most. If your kids aren’t expected to regularly follow through, they might start putting off chores in the hope that someone else will do it for them.